How to talk and when to talk in my office is problem. So please give me a suggestion that what should be my first impression in office. How to create an effective personality?

Hello Anand, the greatest tip that I give for any communication related query is that, develop phenomenal listening skills. I have seen that most people are framing their replies as someone else is talking. The danger, which lies in doing this that you will, almost always miss the vibrations. Remember, body language can be faked. The vibrations cannot be faked or hidden. But, in order to read someone's innermost core vibrations, it is imperative that you listen with rapt attention. When you do this, you will be in a position to put in your inputs properly and intelligently. It is not the quantity of talking that makes a difference but the quality of it. Pretty soon, you will find that people will look forward to your inputs, and ask you for them, simply because they find them value added to their own. That is when your communication starts making a difference and a real impact is created. Hope this helps. read less

Dear Anand, These days professional relationships counts a lot. Being part of various team projects is a good platform to start some fruitful talks. In such cases you can discuss your work along with some light talks which will help to bond with people and talk on a regular basis. Daily morning wishes, common discussions at lunch table can be some other ways to interact. Apart from discussing work, you can talk about your daily basic schedules, weekend plans or other activities happening in your firm. Discuss more positive things rather than negative aspects of regular professional work. read less

Dear Anand, At work the dynamics are such that the way you look and behave when you are going about your daily assignments are the things that people notice and create an impression. Instead of focussing on creating an effective personality - it would help to first and foremost be disciplined in approach and pleasant to all irrespective of designation and grade. Additionally - do not add to grape vine communications that take place in office as that would make you also labelled as a gossip. Whenever talking - stay neutral and professional on issues which are not from your area of expertise. In your areas of expertise - you can use logic and reasoning and put your points forth albeit always remember when in office do not raise your voice to make a point always put forward a better argument or logic .. Wishing you the best read less

When required, talk, else just maintain happiness and peace of mind and always keep a smiling face. Regarding how to talk; it depends on which person you are talking to. We don't behave the same with everyone. You have to behave differently with your seniors, juniors, peers and friends. Always we are changing the mask, and this is called changing our personality.

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